And a red-head, too? At least in the photo above.
Meet Caroline Pover, a British woman who has lived in Japan since 1996. She was forever being asked questions about her life, her culture, opinions and experiences.
Go figure, eh? Why am I saying 'eh' a lot?
As such, being a foreign woman living in Japan and teaching English, she thought it would be prudent to put pen to paper, so to speak, and created the 'Ask Caroline' series of books to answer the questions.
The first series contains questions ask of her by real Japanese women (as opposed to men pretending to be women, I suppose), wanting to know all about life, love, work (number three on the list), sex, marriage and motherhood.
So she did. She has provided serious answers, and some light-hearted ones, and seems to have done well for herself with her frank and caring writings.
It's something I aspire to, but get to do here for free. If you read between the lines in my blogs, you might learn something.
Caroline isn't so secretive, and offers many tips to women on behaving in a globally sophisticated manner.
Sophistication! That's where I am screwing up. Fug!
She offers a perfect resource for women, and dare I say it men who are providing advice to Japanese women (oh gods could I have used her book!).
The above image shows a Japanese-language edition published in 2010, but I do know there is an English-language edition. It sounds like a great read! Caroline - if you read this, this guy would sure love it if you could send him a complimentary copy to read!
The last woman to give him a book knew I was complimentary!
Here are some of the questions Caroline provides some answers to:
- Why are foreigners interested in Japan?
- Do foreign women like trying to wear kimono?
- What do you think about living with parents as an adult?
- Why do Western women have male friends?
- Who usually pays on a date?
- Do you have sex on a first date?
- What kind of underwear do you wear?
- Why do you try to be sexy, whereas we want to be cute?
- Do you stop work after getting married?
- Why do Western mothers try to keep their independence?
My own flippant answers to the above questions are:
- It's alien and therefore exotic. I wasn't interested in Japan until I got there. I needed a job;
- Yes
- It's hellish
- I have no freaking clue.... but I had many Japanese female friends who would pick my brain looking for clues on their own relationships
- Men. Unless they are cheap. Dump them;
- It depends on whether or not you want a second date. Leave a man wanting more. I can't believe I wrote that;
- Something practical. But, if on a first to third date, something unpractical and sexy (man thinking).
- I believe Japanese women cater to the thinking of Japanese men, who prefer cute to sexy.
- No-women believe they need to work to prove equality. A foreign man would like to never work.
- No clue.
See, Caroline? We men could use your book, too!!!
For those of you interested in purchasing a copy of her book(s), here's a link to Amazon: HERE.
Cheers
Andrew Joseph
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